Mahligai Cinta Terbina Sudah~ our big day :)

Apakah erti perkahwinan yang sebenarnya?

Pertamanya, kita perlu tahu apakah dia sebenarnya perkahwinan itu. Perkahwinan adalah satu perhubungan intim diantara dua individu(lelaki dan perempuan) yang bergelar suami dan isteri. Ia bukan setakat hanya untuk menikmati kepuasan seksual, tetapi merangkumi melakukan aktiviti harian secara bersama serta berkongsi minat, kegemaran dan kepentingan. Pasangan ini juga saling bekerjasama dalam setiap urusan keluarga ke arah hidup yang lebih sejahtera dan bermakna. Dalam islam, perkahwinan merupakan satu ikatan yang cukup indah ke arah membina sebuah institusi keluarga yang menuju matlamat mencapai rahmat dan redha allah.


Perkahwinan memberi ruang kepada pasangan untuk merasai kemesraan dan kehangatan kasih sayang, disamping saling memenuhi keperluan peribadi masing-masing secara bersama. Pasangan yang berkahwin juga dapat merasakan satu suasana komunikasi yang lebih bebas serta jelas tentang semua perkara. Perbezaan di antara mereka saling dihormati dan sentiasa wujud rundingan atau perbincangan dalam segala hal dan masalah.....

Alhamdulillah terima kasih pada mu Allah, terima ksih dengan kurniaan dan jodoh yg telah kau anugerahkan ini....akhirnya cinta yang terbina hampir 3 tahun menjadi milik kami secara kekalnya...insyaallah..pada 29/10/04 untuk pertama kalinya aku terpandang akan dirinya dan ikatan perkenalan mulalah terjalin.... bermacam dugaan dan rintangan yang kami hadapi...hampir sekali memutuskan ikatan pertunangan dek tidak tertahankan dengan pelbagai cubaan...tapi kuasa Allah swt lebih mengatasi segala-galanya...Semuanya hampir berjalan dengan smooth & sailing sekali selepas aku diijab kabul kan pada 30/3/2009 berwalikan bapaku sendiri Ayahanda tercinta Atok Jali di surau JAIS Kajang Selangor selepas Zohor...Mengambil kesepatan untuk mengabadikan Tarikh 1 April 2009 (April Fool!) sebagai simbolik tarikh persandingan...senang nak ingat kan..maklumlah nanti lagi banyak tarikh2 yang nak kene ingat..hihi...
Dan semoga cinta ini akan terus mekar dan berpanjangan ....Amin!

Saat titisan air mata...membatalkan air sembahyang....apa yang terlintas di ketika ini hanyalah syurga ku kini di bawah telapak kakinya....apakah aku sudah cukup bersedia untuk episod yang seterusnya? mudah mudahan Allah memberikan aku lebih kekuatan dan iman....

Ya Allah, aku mencintai suamiku kerana cintanya pada-Mu, Kekalkanlah cintanya pada-Mu, agar bertambah kekuatanku untuk mencintai-Mu, dan Kekalkanlah cintaku pada-Mu agar cinta suamiku kekal bersamaku, serta bimbinglah cinta kami agar kami tidak hanyut dari landasan cinta-Mu. Amin

I did something quite nasty recently... by being blunt. I'm normally a tactful person. I mean well, trying to be respectful and all but at the same time, I feel so stressed out. So a couple of days ago I told myself enough is enough. No more being miss nice girl. I wrote everything on a piece of paper and told this person exactly what I felt. It was direct and to the point. I didn't care if that person hates me forever... but it sure felt good to finally tell someone off. I don't feel agitated anymore. I feel empowered! LOL!

For me, I would rather a person be honest with me (even though it hurts) rather than say nice things but say all kinds of nasty things behind my back. If we have issues with someone, we should face that with him/her.

CINTA TERAKHIRKU

Kau cinta pertamaku

Kau cinta terakhirku

Tiada apa yang bisa

Menafikan kasih kita

Kau ayu di mataku

Satu antara seribu

Tiada tara di dunia

Mungkin kan terputus di tengah jalan

Mungkin kan terlerai tanpa ikatan

Usah ragu dengan takdir

Kau ayu di mataku

Satu antara seribu

Tiada tara di dunia

Mungkin kita kan berbeza haluan

Berakhirnya cerita percintaan

Segalanya ketentuan Tuhan

Semoga dirinya kekal menjadi cinta terakhirku....papa i love u so much...no word can describe our love~

Thanks to be a part of my life's

How's Married Life?

Everyone's favorite question for me right now is: "So, how's married life?" And I appreciate their genuine interest in my life. Really, I do.

And believe me, I want with all my heart to gush and tell them that it's amazing. That it's fairytale-esque. That my husband and I eat dinner together and talk about our days. That while he does the dishes, I hover in the kitchen regaling him with stories from work or class. That we settle onto the couch and I do homework on the laptop while we watch some tv or just talk. And truthfully, I believe, this is what people want to hear.

But that's simply not how it is. When I left for work this morning, I kissed my husband and told him I would see him on Monday. (It's Friday). I spend the majority of my nights alone, while he works forty-five minutes away. We go for days at a time without seeing each other at all-- because I leave for work in the morning and i'll be back at 5pm while he's working from afternoon till wee hours...by the time he's arrive i just sleep! It's only a short period to seing each others!...OMG! what a short time now days!

I don't mean to complain, but I get tired to telling people how wonderful it is because frankly, if I had to sum up marriage in one word, it would be "lonely."

This is the part where you tell me that I shouldn't bend the truth; that I should open up and tell people the reality of what marriage is like for me, at least. And sometimes, when I think they can stomach it, I do. But 99% of the time I get one of three responses:
1. Well, you should just be glad he has a job at all. (And I am. WE are. So very blessed).
2. It will get better. (Yes, I'm sure it will but right now, it is difficult).
3. One day, you'll wish he was working opposite schedules because you'll always be on each other's nerves OR "absence makes the heart grow fonder" (Thanks, but NO).
And so, I simply leave it at: "I love being married." This is truth. I do. It is hard-- harder than I could have ever imagined. But for the few days that we have spent together, it is remarkable. And if our schedules are like this until we retire, I still wouldn't trade it for the world.

Full of hope this marriage will last forever!